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victoriaplaceo

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Aidpage people, this is my last hope.
In late May of 2008 a man kicked in my apartment door and raped me. The state pressed charges and he took a plea bargain.  I should be satified with that, and Im not saying I am not.
Since then, I lost my apartment, I just move to the community in 07 and it was very small so I had to leave there and went to a town where I knew one person and am now living in a room they so kindly let me have for a while.
I had to stay near the area for criminal proceedings and my job.  I was on medical leave and my job fired me.  I applied for unemployment and they denied me so I am in the appealing process now.
I have been living on my savings  and credit and it is about gone.  I am selling my clothes an personal items.  I am trying to keep my life from sinking, I am running out of resources.
Questions you might wonder and there answers
1 Isnt there a victims assistance, yes there is am I have been accepted.  My doctors have not sent records, I pick them up today, so I will get some lost wages if they accept it and if I do it will be 90 to 180 days
2 Can they fire you for being a victim of a violent crime. Apparantly they can, I have checked with civil rights and they said file a complaint
3. Denyed unemployment, yes shocking, hopfully the appeal process will work
4. Do you have family, yes, I have not heard from them since August, and the consensus among them is I should be okay by now.  I miss them, but they were causing more harm then good at this time.
5. Are you applying for jobs? Yes, against therapists advice  I have to , for unemployment and income.  It is a small community with little jobs and it is awfully hard to explain why I do not want jobs to contact my last employer.
6 Have you asked friends? yes, twice, not a dollar, in fact some of them dont talk to me to much anymore.  Its funny, when you are a rape victim, you are not fun anymore so the calls stop.
7. How come no one heard about it.  They kept it quiet with no media coverage, I have my suspicions why
8 How much do you need, to live for 3 months I would just need 3000.00
 Another thing that is ironic, I have spent the last 16 years caring for people, and my last job I was a counselor for the mentally ill many who were victims.  It was a CARE facility and they let me go.
I realize I am not a mass disaster like a hurricane victim or 911 but I do need help.
If you can help I would appreciate it, and if you know anyone who could help that would be nice.
I created a blog for my own venting purposes and so someday someone will find it and know others go through the same. http://rape-and-sexual-as...
I also created a survivor site http://www.rasasurvivors....
I need help please, even a dollar is something  you can do it at http://victoriaplaceo.chi...
 
Thank you
Victoria Placeo
 
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katrina2010

It's ok to say you were fired from your last job. The last job can only say though, the dates of employment and your wages. The only hurdle is why you were fired. You could say you were having personal issues that interfered with your duties on the job, and that they have been overcome. I would avoid discussing the rape, unless you have to, then sanitize it by saying you were a crime victim. You have already noted the weird reactions of your own family, no need to go down that road with a future employer.

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ran out of luck

MANY THOUGHTS HAVE PASSED BEFORE WRITTING THIS TO YOU .A REALAZATION HAS OCCURED THAT HELP IS NEEDED IN MY LIFE EVEN AS YOU READ THIS .IT BEEHOOVES ME TO GET TO THE NEXT PART OF MY LIFE ,INWHICH DIRECTION WILL BECOME A MAJOR PART OF MY MOVEMENT TO SUCCEED TO THE NEXT LEVEL. I COME TO YOU ITH SINCERETY AND CLARITY OF MY INTENTION.IT SADDENS ME TO WRITE THIS .UPON ARRIVING HERE IN HIS MISSION SORROW AND DEPRESSION HAS STRUCK DEEP INTO MY MIND WHICH HAS FED UPON ME AS DAYS WENT BY STANDING STEAD FAST WITH THE TEMPTATION THAT SURROUNDS ME ON A DAILY BASIS EVERY TYPE OF DRUG AND ALACHOL FLOWS THROUGH THIS WORLD JUST AS MONEY FLOWS AROUND THIS WORLD FREELY.I BESET MY WILL TOBECOME A STASTIC OF ITEM THAT SURROUNDS ME,IT BECOMES HARDER AND HARDER TO RESIST AS DAAYS GO BY..ORDINARY FOR ME NOT TO FALL THROUGH THE CRACKS OF THIS PLACE AND LIFE TO MAKE IT OUT OF HERE TO BECOME SOMEBODY IM ASKING FOR HELP DIRECTION AND GUIDANCE TO GET TO THE NEXT LEVEL.THERES SOMETHING THATS WRONG IN MY LIFE AND ITS TRULLY TROUBLESOME THAT NO MATTER WHAT I TRY TO GET AND ANSWER IT WONT COME TO ME AND IM TRYING TO MAKE A STAND HERE TO GET MY LIFE RIGHT AND IM PLEADING OUT TO ALL WHO IS READING THIS ..FOR DIRCTION AND COMMENTS AND PRAYERS CAUSE IM SOMEONE WHO WANT BETTER AND I NEED HELP ...... THANKS TO ALL FROM KEVIN JOHNSON 405-942-403 outdagate_itsme@yahoo.com all advice is welcomed and appreciated written and edited by kevin johnson

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victoriaplaceo
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KC

 

I thank you so much for your comment.  The fact that a stranger says they care means so much to me.  It almost brings me to tears.

 

I am sorry for your sisters and hope they are well.  Thank you so much for caring.

 

Victoria Placeo

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KC Cavalier

Victoria I am so sorry this horrible, horrible thing happened to you. I have two sisters that were raped at the same time and they had to get serious long term counseling before they could feel or participate in life. It was not and never is the fault of the victim-NEVER!! Please call a hotline to get counseling immmediately even if you do not think it will help-IT WILL-maybe not immediately or maybe for just a few minutes but long term you can heal. Bless you and keep reaching out. There are people who care-I do!! KC Cavalier

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RACHLE

I CAN TELL YOU LOVE THE OUTDOORS BEAUTIFUL WATERFALL.HAVE A NICE DAY

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